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| Islam and Mother |
Islam honors the mother higher than any other religion on earth. The mother who is so much appreciated by Islam and who receives all these rights has a task to fulfill. She has to take care of her children, raise them well, implant virtues and make them detest evil. She has to teach them to obey Allah, encourage them to defend what is truthful, not dissuade them from fighting for Allah (a form of jihad) because of the maternal feelings in their hearts, but to favor the right way about the feeling.
In fact, references to parents have been made at least 15 times in the Holy Qur'an. The Holy Quran, a state,
“And your Lord has commanded that you shall not serve (any) but Him, and goodness to your parents. If either or both of them reach old age with you, say not to them (so much as) "Ugh" nor chide them, and speak to them a generous word.” (AlIsraa:23)
We saw a believing mother, Al-Khansaa, in the battle of Qadesseyah eloquently urging her four sons to be brave and firm. Then, as soon as the battle ended and they learned of her four deaths, she did not lament, but said with certainty and satisfaction: "Praise be to Allah who honored me with his martyrdom."
The rights of mothers in Islam are a big problem ... we can only mention some of their rights, such as:
1. Obedience and respect.
In Islam, obedience, respect and love for parents is next to the worship of Allah. Allah has made honoring his mother a virtue, and He has the right of the mother over that of the father for what she suffers in pregnancy, childbirth, lactation and the upbringing of her children.
This is affirmed and reaffirmed in the Koran, in several chapters, to imprint this notion in the mind and heart of the child as in the following verses:
"And we have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years-give thanks to Me and your parents,-unto Me is the final destination.” (Surah 31:14)
and the verse "And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents. His mother bears him with hardship and she brings him forth with hardship, and the bearing of him, and the weaning of `jim is thirty (30) months.” (Surah 46:15)
and the verse “And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: "My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small." (Surah Isra :23-24)
A man came to the Prophet, blessings and peace be upon him, asking: "Who is the one who most deserves my care?"
He said: "Your mother." The man asked: "Then, who?"
He said: "Your mother." The man asked: "Then, who?"
He said: Your mother. "The man asked (the fourth time)," Then who? "
He said, "your father
(Transmitted by Bukhari and Muslim on the authority of Abu Huraira La Perla and the Coral (Al-Lu'lu 'wal-Marjan - 1652)
There is a famous story of a man who was going around the Ka'bah carrying his mother. He asked his mother: "Did I pay you?" At that time Ibn Omar (a companion of the Prophet that Allah is pleased with him) was passing by, he said: "No, not even for one of his moans (that is, one of the moans of work, childbirth, etc.)
A man came to the Prophet, blessings and peace be upon him, and said: "O Messenger of Allah, I want to fight and I want your advice." He asked: "Do you have a mother?" The man said: "Yes." He said: "Do not leave it because Paradise is under your feet.
It's incredible that Islam has ordered us to be good to a mother, even if she is an unbeliever! Asma'a bint Abu Bakr asked the Prophet, blessings and peace be upon him, about his relationship with his unbelieving mother who had come to her. He said: "Yes, keep good relations with your mother." (Transmitted under the authority of Asmaa (agreed), The Pearl and the Coral (Al-Lu'lu 'wal-Marjan -587)
Prophet Mohammad, blessings and peace be upon him, said that serving parents well is an act of great virtue, condemned to disobey and harm them, and described such acts as the most serious and detestable sin.
When asked about the main sins, the Prophet Mohammad, blessings and peace be upon him, he replied: "To associate another God with Allah, to disobey the parents, to kill illegally and give false testimony".
The acts mentioned above have been condemned as 'Akbarul-Kabaair', that is, the most serious of the major sins. The order, in which the prophet Mohammad, blessings and peace be upon him, mentions them, shows that the contempt of the rights of the parents is the following, alone, for polytheism (Shirk) and is even more serious than the murder.
Anyone who seeks the satisfaction of Allah should make sure that his parents are satisfied with him. Keeping parents well pleased is essential, since their anger and disgust will lead to Allah's anger and disgust. The Prophet Mohammad, blessings and peace be upon him, said:
"In the good pleasure of the father is the good pleasure of the Creator and in his displeasure, is the displeasure of the Creator."
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